So I slowly drove up the drive way.. My daughter who will be celebrating her first birthday in two days sat quietly around the back strapped in her car seat. In her hand she tightly held onto an excelsior snacker biscuit I just bought her at the Super-plus Supermarket. I was introduced to this brand of biscuit by my new neighbour Clyon who works at the Excelsior Biscuit Company. It is slightly salted and has a “little bit” of crunchiness to it. My daughter and I liked it so I decided to get her some. I had planned to give her Cheese and biscuit as part of her snack to take with her to her daycare tomorrow.
We exited the car and entered our new home. This had been our home for Little over two months now. I missed our old home. Our own home; Where I have more privacy and the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment that comes with home ownership.
It was last October that gunmen came into our home and robbed us and ever since we have not quite felt comfortable there. So for peace, safety and health we decided to give our home a break.
So here we are at our new home. Small but comfortable. . We entered and I immediately placed her on the bed and turned the television on. Leaving from my 9 to 5 job, I was tired but instantly started to do some work around the house. Not long after a TV series ” Twice in a lifetime” began to air. In the show, there was this woman who was about to get married. She was very angry and up set about the way her life has been. Her father left her mother when she was a child and her mother married 4 times. For her both parents had commitment issues that affected her. The long and short of the story is that, she fell down the stairs and died before she could walk down the ailse.
She woke up in the after life “facing” a very kind judge, who sent her back to re-live her life in the physical world. There she received another chance to make things right. Bingo! That’s a fairy tale… I am well aware that I only get the chance to live once in this life and so getting things right first time is crucial.
I immediately reflected on my decision as a parent. What are the legacies I am creating for my daughter? Do I possess qualities that she will strive to emulate? Will my life point her in the right direction morally and spiritually? Will I be a good life coach, mentor, friend, provider, adviser? Will I impact her life in all the positive ways possible?
As a parent, I know that I will be her biggest influence especially in her early years and doing things right first time is paramount to her social and ethical development.
With this awakening (not that I was oblivious to the reality) I was reminded that everyday that I live, I am creating a legacy for my child. A legacy worth creating if done right.